I see now. So it's transiting Pluto that has been conjunct your natal Saturn, and also conjunct your Uranus by the way. I count both of them (not just Saturn) as being in your 5th house. In what I call an equal house solar birth chart, they would have both been in the 10th house. This is why your efforts are being met with opposition, and why you are facing legal problems, etc. From your 5th house we are seeing the potential of this involving a child or child custody, and from the 10th house we are seeing the authorities and legalities, etc. So THIS is what we are really looking at, particularly during Pluto's recent retrograde. The structure and tradition of Saturn has been bulldozed by Pluto, and so has your Uranian urge for independence and change. Pluto presents power that is greater than the authority of Saturn. So much of what you have built in your life is likely to go under if you haven't built it on a strong enough foundation, or if you have neglected "upkeep" in certain areas.
Pluto has also been trining your Ascendant and Moon, and trines from Pluto to the Moon in particular do not have the same kind of pleasant feeling that other trines usually do. As a matter of fact, this is a very emotionally challenging aspect (although easier than most other aspects would have been). This is the emotinal stuff. You may begin noticing more of this by December, as you may be forced to begin making emotional choices and to consider letting go of something in regards to home, family, or someone who was close. (Maybe a grandparent, but we don't know.) This will continue throughout 2010. However, since this is happening during a trine from Pluto to your Moon and not a conjunction, square or opposition, you will be able to cope with it.
Neptune, Jupiter, and Chiron (mostly Neptune and Chiron for some time) have been squaring your Taurus MC and Scorpio IC, and you may have felt somewhat better when Jupiter first caught up to that aspect. Everything in the life seems uncertain...Home, family, relationship, Self... Neptune and Chiron caused a combination of confusion and possibly grief, yet, Jupiter brought in an opportunity. See, at the same time they all have been sextiling your Venus and Jupiter in the 9th...That's the reconnection with the Sagittarian man who is in the military. This contact may linger for some time if you keep in touch, and it may have an opportunity to grow, but you are looking at December of this year or January of next before it has a real possibility of going somewhere. (Will he have a Christmas break of any kind?) This same Neptune, Chiron, and Jupiter transit is activating your Lilith in Leo and Ceres in Aquarius opposition in your natal chart, and this throws confusion into matters of child custody and similar matters of children. Jupiter may be of assistance for awhile, especially once it goes direct and then retruns to the aspect late this year. But that's when you really have to make the strongest efforts in the custody case (as well as in the long distance relationship). And with the custody case, if you truly want custody as opposed to your own independence, you have to really start working on it now. It's highlighted in July, and again when Jupiter goes direct in October, and you cannot let this slide of this is what you want. WIthout Jupiter around during these periods, Neptune and Chiron will only confuse the situation, so you need to work with Jupiter when you can.
So many of these choices will be up to you in the end. It is your own subconscious Uranian urge for independence that got you in this position to begin with. If I use an equal house solar chart, it would put tranisting Uranus in your 12th house since about early 2006 or so, signaling you to make changes, but from a place of unconsciousness where you are not fully aware of what is happening.
Transiting Uranus and Saturn have been back and forth over your North Node in Pisces in the 7th and your South Node in Virgo in the First, so your own identity in relationship to others is being challenged, and with Uranus soon to be entering the 7th, you don't feel like hanging on to the same partnership situation. It is beginning to seem old and outowrn, and no longer seems to serve you. You may see it change or end in about a year or so, as Uranus crosses into your 7th (or conjuncts the DC) for the first time. Your relationship is beginning to seem invalid, but this is partly because you are changing. And you are trying to be responsible since Saturn first entered your 1st house (actually since it firstr conjuncted your ascendant), but with Uranus opposite it doesn't get seem to matter how responsible you are trying to be, because you can't seem to build permanence yet.
To try and sum things up, I do see some positive Jupiter transits towards the end of the year for you to go with. This may have to do with both the Sagittarian and the custody case...But don't give up on that custody case when things appear to be going your way, IF you truly want custody. You'll have to prove it to yourself as well as to others. Then when Jupiter conjuncts your Sun in March of 2010, it should bring better things; a feeling of connection, a spiritual awareness, and maybe a chance to really get close to someone. The law may see things your way to a degree at any of these points, which is helpful. Pluto will keep things on an up and down spin for awhile, however.
The Sun of your Taurus man is being squared by Neptune and Chiron (and Jupiter), and so is his Saturn...He is going through that same sense of confusion in all areas of his life. Pluto transiting square his Aries moon could end the relationship, but we dont' have a time of birth , so this may have already begun. Every area of his life is uncertain. I'll have to really look at the chart of your Taurus companion later on, okay?